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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 984

PB, you've definitely found a way to resolve the argument - get to that laundry room post haste. Once you've figured out how to work that machine, can you send the instructions to my husband?

In all seriousness, the new lifestyle you've entered is bound to throw up all kinds of changes to your natural flow of doing things. No matter how much you and Mrs. PB love each other, there are things that you both did and expected in your single lives that are bound to shift now that you've got hitched. And the stress is going to trigger you every time. It's happened to me and Mr Todash I don't know how many times but is always resolved by me being perfectly honest with my feelings and talking about things til we iron them out. Kill the crave with conversation, I say!

Best of luck with your Mrs., your craves and your whites.

x T

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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 363

I'm doing a little better today, thank you for asking. The wife is mad at me right now and has been for a few days and isn't speaking to me, so now it's a whole different set of triggers going off for me. I think this is only the 2nd time she has been mad at me in 3 years, so it's not like this is something that happens a lot. Anyway, I am managing, staying busy, keeping my mind off of things as best as I can. Maybe I'll do some more laundry..

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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11226

PB,

Isn't it amazing how writing helps? It sounded like you just wrote yourself out of a crave

How are you feeling today?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 50

Sorry PB, you can't get out of the laundry that easy. She's gonna see right through that one.

Good for you figuring out what might be the trigger. I too have been experiencing some major craves, but I know I have some serious stressful issues going on right now, so it is not a surprise. I knew it was coming. I also think we need to remember that a new season brings new triggers as well.

I just keep taking things one day at a time, one trigger at a time.

Time for a very loud BACK OFF BOOGALOO (but not to the laundry)

I may want a smoke, but I sure don't want to be a smoker.

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My Quit Date: 9/19/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 224
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Days: 24 Hrs: 12 Mins: 57 Seconds: 56

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 639

You're on the lookout, PB...that is what matters. We all run across triggers. Sometimes they are weeks or months apart. Sometimes they are minutes and days apart. Spring has got me all trigger-happy this year....Deal with them one at a time with a moment of meditation, a shot of cold water, a deep breath then move on down the road. Just like dusting or folding laundry....the urge will pass. Your wife will understand

Keep the Quit,

Dave

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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1904

I don't know about you PB, but I smoked when things were going well as well as when things were going badly. My inclination was sometimes to just kick back and relax with a cigarette. One of the things I discussed with someone about a month ago is that the sad thing about these addiction is that once you become addicted to a substance you are always an addict. Recovering alcoholics are alcoholics, even if they had their last drink 40 years ago. The mind and body does not forget, and addicts need that reminder. One sip, one puff and we are back at it like we never stopped. The good news is that the cravings do become less intense and come farther and farther apart. However, there are people who still have craves every once and a while 15-20 years out.
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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 363

I wasn't going to post, I was just going to get through it, but this crave keeps persisting and gnawing at my mind. I can't even figure out what has brought it on, or for how long its been going on. I'm trying to think back, but my memory isn't all that great. Maybe 2 weeks now, I know it's been a while, but I keep pushing back the thoughts. Its just really frustrating to be almost 400 days in and have to feel some of the same things you felt at day 30. It makes you question whether it's all worth it, even though we all know it is worth it. I can't find the trigger, bills are paid, jobs are stable, wait, maybe it's the new job my wife started 3 weeks ago. She is on swing shift, and we're experiencing the first cycle of it right now. The 1st week she was on days Monday -Friday, the 2nd week she was on 2nd shift Monday-Friday, and this, the third week, she is on 3rd shift, 8 hours nights Monday - Friday and 12 hour nights Saturday and Sunday, then she is off Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday. Her schedule has brought on some serious changes in the house, for one, I have to cook a lot now, and do more laundry, and clean more often....just like the perfect husband that I am...hehe...

Yep, maybe that is it, I think I found my trigger, so all I can do is my part around here and get used to her new schedule, then all should go back to normal. Thanks for hearing me out, sometimes writing it helps, it just helped me find out why I'm feeling that stupid junkie in me cry and moan. I wonder if I tell the lovely wife housework is a trigger I could get out of it?????

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